Ever
heard of the concept ‘fake it til you make it’. It’s a kind of
self-fulfilling prophesy that has over time become a widely proposed way
to boost self-esteem. When you feel nervous but want to come off as
confident, the key is to learn to ‘fake it til you make it’.
Adjust Your Body Language
Think
of it this way: if you act like a winner you feel like a winner. Learn
to tweak your posture a bit so you make yourself bigger rather than
smaller. Even if you don’t feel confident, position your body to
communicate confidence to other people. Positive physiology typically
sends positive messages to our brains so next time learn to stand as
tall and proud as you can.
Take Note of Your Tone of Voice
Your
tone can betray a lack of confidence. To fix this, you can try
recording yourself speaking and playback to assess how level and
assertive your tone is, then ask yourself what you can do to improve
your tone. Understand that the more you can relax and be yourself with
your voice, the better and more confident you will come across. Remember
to breathe easily and deeply to maintain an open, warm and resonant
tone.
Know What to Do With Your Eyes
If
it’s comfortable for you to make constant eye contact, do so, if not
don’t. But whatever you choose to do just be consistent with it. You
tend to come off as nervous and not confident when it seems like you
don’t know what to do with your eyes.
Pay Attention to the Way You Think
It’s
baffling that people actually choose to think negatively of their own
selves. Negative thoughts about yourself impede your confidence, and if
you keep it up no matter how much you try to act confidently you will
always fail. The key is to successfully coming off as confident, is to
question this negative voice and replace it with positive, wise and
encouraging thoughts.
Dress Well
Your
look goes a long way in helping you successfully come off as confident
even when nervous. Not only does dressing smartly make you look
confident, research also shows it actually helps you behave more
confidently too. Once you can combine dressing smartly with the
appropriate body language and carriage, you will be surprised at the
results.
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