No
one ever said long distance relationships were easy, but they don’t
have to be so hard either. They don’t have to ruin your relationship;
neither do they have to be the end of it. Distance makes the heart grow
fonder and sincerely that’s one of the truest statements in existence.
Stay in Contact
A
lot of people miss the point of this and believe this means you have to
talk every single day the two of you are apart, but the truth is it
depends. What are you and your partner comfortable with? Talk about it.
The point of staying in contact is to nurture the emotional connection
between the two of you. You and your partner should define what ‘staying
in contact’ is for the two of you and how best to do it based on what
the two of you are comfortable with.
Remember That Your Partner is Human
Distance
makes the heart grow fonder, but unfortunately you grow so fond of your
partner that you begin to idealize him/her and forget that they are
human. No one is perfect, they are going to have tough days and might
not be able to talk to you as much or as enthusiastically as they once
did. Don’t be so afraid of this and don’t think the relationship is over
because of this. Be understanding, be supportive, be a listening ear
and be there for them. Give them what they need, even if what they need
is sometime on their own to deal with things.
Don’t Be Afraid
There
is no relationship that can survive without trust. Honestly, a long
distance relationship is a true test of trust because in that period you
have to believe in the person you say you love and trust them to be
good. Pray for them if it makes you feel more comfortable (that is, if
you are the religious type) but by all means learn to trust them. Stop
thinking every change in their attitude, voice or mein is because they
are tired of you or the relationship. Such fear isn’t good for your
blood pressure, heart rate and general well-being.
Visit Each Other
If
there are opportunities for the two of you to visit each other, then do
so as often as you can but it should be as agreed between the two of
you. If there is no opportunity for the two of you to visit each other,
then you two should do things together at the same time. You two can do
so over apps or softwares like Facetime, Skype etc. This is done to
promote bonding and basically just to see each other. This largely helps
to deal with loneliness in the relationship on both ends.
Make Each Other Feel Special
The
lovely thing about long distance relationships aside the fact that they
can make you grow fonder, is that they help you become more attentive
to the little things in your relationship. Just doing little things like
surprising your partner with a sweet message, ordering something nice
for your partner online etc. can help you make each other feel very
special and keep the fire burning in your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
As
much as you remain positive, also be realistic. Long distance
relationships can fail, then again what relationship can’t fail? You
should understand that every kind of relationship needs work, dedication
and attention, so you should invest these in your relationship. Prepare
yourself for bumps along the road, but never fear them. You can talk
about it with your partner and prepare yourself to avoid or navigate
through possible bumps along the way. In the end, the challenges can
contribute to a better relationship; it just depends on how the two of
you manage it.
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